How To Mind Your Business

In a world full of indoctrinations that continuously embolden us to audaciously  dive into the affairs of others; in a world where we are continually enmeshed in our comparison of ourselves with others and almost always quick to form and distribute our malformed judgements, you may need to take a pause to ask yourself, how do I start minding my own damn business?

Before we continue, here are a few reasons why you should consider minding your business:

1. It is not your business.
2. No one asked for your opinion (unless they did).
3. You don’t know the whole story.
4. You aren’t perfect either.
5. It really isn’t your business to mind in the first place.

Possible reasons why you are currently not able to mind your business may include:

1. You are goodie-two-shoes.
2. You have an obsession to know other people’s business to make sure they are not doing better than you (unhealthy competition).
3. You lack meaning in your life and the distraction of talking about other people’s business is a coping mechanism.

Now that we’ve gotten these out of the way and you are hopefully coming to terms with the reasons why it is important that you master the fine art of minding your business, you may then ask yourself, where do I begin in this life long journey? Here are a few suggestions –

1. Get busy: If your life is fun enough, you will have less time to seek for things that doesn’t concern you.
2. Meditate often: Meditation will help you take a pause from this worldly cacophony of distraction and focus on yourself. It helps you train your mind to search out what is most important and devote yourself to it. Most times, you’ll find that focusing on the truly important things translate to minding your own business.
3. Realize that your journey is yours and their journey is theirs: There is really no need to use others as a yardstick to measure your own journey. There is also no need to hold others to your own standard (especially if they are not hurting anyone).

In summary, we cannot of course live in isolation and there will always be the need to be your brother’s keeper. In times like when such is needed, reach out for explanations in kindness and stay aware of the fact that your ideals and the things that make you whole may not necessarily be the same for the other person.